Pregnancy Gripes: I’m not “Huge” “Massive” or “Big” – I’M PREGNANT FGS!
Why Do People Think It’s OK to Comment on the Size of Your Pregnant Belly?
One of the blogposts in my pregnancy fitness community made me laugh this morning because it brought back all the vivid emotional feelings of indignance that I too felt during my pregnancy whenever someone (particularly people you don’t know very well) commented on the size of my belly.
It’s like just because you’re pregnant, suddenly the whole world thinks that you are now public property and they can do or say anything they like to you even if you’ve never seen that person before in your life and they are a complete stranger!
And you know – even though in their eyes their comments have nothing to do with the state of your pregnancy health, how much weight you have gained or your level of pregnancy fitness, it is still downright rude.
I remember when I was 5 months pregnant, going out for a drink with my friend and some bloke I barely knew (and couldn’t remember speaking to before – although he clearly thought he knew me), coming over to say hi and the first thing he said to me was,
“5 months pregnant – wow you’re big aren’t you?”
I couldn’t help myself. I let rip. Emotions being what they were and all that.
I asked him why he thought it was ok to tell a pregnant woman he thought she was big when he would never go up to a fat person and comment on their size?
He looked suitably embarassed and replied sheepishly “yeah but you’re not fat, you’re pregnant, it’s different”.
Yes of course it’s different, but do you have any idea what it’s like to lose your entire body to some other force you have no control over?
Or what it’s like not being able to see what colour your knickers are, paint your toenails or buckle up your shoes?
Here I am trying to enjoy and evening out with a friend and already feeling quite self concious about my pregnancy weight gain and new body shape and then you come along and tell me how bloody big I look!
FGS! Have some respect! Now go sit in that massive hole you just dug for yourself and try getting your size 10 out of your mouth and don’t come bothering me again until you’ve learnt some manners!
Oh and did I mention that I’m still wearing size 8 maternity jeans? That’s PETITE you MORON!
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Why You Should NEVER Compare Yourself To Another Pregnant Woman
So listen, the next time someone decides to take it upon themselves to comment on your size – just remember its not personal even though it may feel like it. They are not intentionally commenting on your pregnancy weight gain.
It happens to every pregnant woman on the planet and its just another one of those things you have to put up with during pregnancy.
As long as you are on track with your pregnancy diet and your pregnancy workouts, the actual size of your belly shouldn’t bother you. A lot of it is down to genetics – the size of your baby, the size of your body and the shape of your frame will all affect how big your belly looks.
For example if you are short with an hourglass figure your belly will look big. Your normally tiny waist will be hidden under your baby and your hips will look even bigger as they widen to allow space for your baby to grow.
If you are tall with an athletic build you will look much slimmer. Your height and narrow hips will balance out the baby weight in front.
All that truly matters is how you carry that baby weight and so all you need to worry about is staying on track with your pregnancy health.
So the next time someone decides to make an insensitive reference to your size, grit your teeth, and tell them, I’m not “big, fat, huge or massive you know, I’M PREGNANT!!”
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Pettel Maternity on January 19th, 2010
You are completely right. I think in was around 5 months that people started to comment on the size of my belly. The comments had no consistent nature, some said I was huge and was I sure I wasn’t having twins, while others said I was petite for 5 months. But when you are pregnant all that doesn’t matter. You just don’t want to hear anything negative and you really shouldn’t. After all, you are pregnant. So I agree, if you are pregnant and someone comments on your size, unless it is ‘you look great!’ or something along these lines – set them straight!
And be happy with your pregnant body! It rocks!